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(Posted by Ron & Gayle).

We were recently interviewed by the relentlessly awesome Dixie Feldman who writes a blog for WETV.Com.  We’ll be sharing the interview in its entirety over the next few weeks.  Enjoy!

Any successful M-Ds that impress you? (Tony Randall and his wife? Bogey and Bacall?)

Gayle: My mom and step-dad had a 15 year age difference.  She was a “cougar” long before we knew what that meant.  They had a great relationship.  In the famous couple category, Bogey and Bacall had a 25 year age difference, but I never thought of them as a May-December couple,  Tony Randall and Heather Harlan with their 50 year age difference showed us how vital an older man can be.  But, I think one of my favorites is Clint Eastwood and his wife Dina.  There is a 35 year age difference between the two of them.  They have a child together, have been married since 1996, and still rock the red carpet when they are together.  I also like the Sarandon/Robbins paring.  She’s 12 years older and amazingly beautiful.  They seem like they are very grounded and secure with each other.

Ron: Gayle is better at that one than I.  I would say that Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones appear to be very happy.  So do Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore.  Gayle’s mother was 15 years older than her step father and I was always impressed that she seemed to be the younger partner.  They were together until her death.hat are the pros and cons to an M-D when the women is the one who’s older?

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Posted by Gayle

All you facebookers out there will recognize this list.  Seems it’s gone viral on facebook.  I received many versions of it and today I decided to take the plunge and come up with my list.  Then I figured if I was going to share it on facebook – why not go ahead and put it on the blog?  So here it is in all it’s unedited and unrestrained glory.

But before the voyeur in you dives in, let me share a secret with you.  After 22 years of marriage, there are times when Ron and I seem like we’ve run out of things to say to each other.  We’ve noticed this on vacation a time or two.  I have a much higher need for words than he does.  I think he could contentedly curl up with a book (next to me of course) for days and speak less than a 1000 words a day (now there is an experiment for you!)  I on the other hand I go daft when I don’t get enough… conversation (thanks mom.)

Several years ago we found a way to remedy the conversation issue when at a loss.  Read the rest of this entry »

Get the scoop, the whole scoop, and nothing but the scoop!

(Posted by Ron & Gayle).

We were recently interviewed by the relentlessly awesome Dixie Feldman who writes a blog for WETV.Com.  We’ll be sharing the interview in its entirety over the next few weeks.  Enjoy!

What are the pros and cons to an M-D when the women is the one who’s older?

Gayle: I’ve tried to answer these questions throughout the interview.  If you are woman and dating someone significantly older or younger,  you’ve got to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.  People will judge you (but they would do it anyway) and you’ve got to find a way to remind yourself that what OTHER people think of you is NONE of YOUR business.  If you fallen in love with someone younger, he’s going to bring youthful vitality   into your life and re-introduce you to forgotten aspects of yourself.  The downside is you better be comfortable in your own skin – or you are going to drive yourself crazy with your own insecurities and jealousies (and you don’t have to be in an age gap relationship to do that.)

Ron: Many are the same as with the man.  She’s more mature and more patient with the younger man.  Sexually she is often more knowledgeable and is willing to mentor (yes, I copied that from Gayle) the younger male as he grows sexually.  Finances for her are often not an issue since it’s likely she is also established in her career.  On the other hand society is less accepting of this relationship.  Society has defined older women as predatory when they are the older person in an age gap relationship.  It is so bad that they have been branded as “cougars.”  Generally speaking women live longer than men.  When the woman is older it’s much more likely that both of them will be able to reach their “later” years together and she will not be as likely as an older man to die and leave her much younger partner prematurely.    

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(Posted by Gayle)

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ABC News: May-December Love Takes H’wood by Storm.

LOVE

We can talk about dependencies and co-dependency all day long, but at the end of the day, you know that when you love someone – what they do and how they feel matter to you.  The secret to successful loving relationships may just be balance. Balance is achieved one step at a time while you learn to walk the tightrope of loving them and loving yourself simultaneously – finding a way to care for both of you – not just one of you.  Deep and abiding love is inclusive – not exclusive.

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
From A Stranger in a Strange Land – Robert Heinlein

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