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Audrey — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 10:28:52 +0000

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Comment on Are May December relationships really that different? by Don

Don — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 21:28:54 +0000

Hello for the first time on here. I think this is a great site and just found it today. After reading Kellie’s post I thought I’d tell my story here as I don’t have many people I feel comfortable discussing this with. I’m 55 and my princess is 28 and we have incredible love for each other. I’m a divorced (8 years ) father of two sons and one daughter and she falls right in the middle of their age group. She and my sons have met but my daughter is out of the country and has only met her using video chat and they all seem to be very accepting of our relationship. My sons live 500 miles away so we’ve only got together a couple of times since we met a year and a half ago. We are now engaged but haven’t set a date yet but are both thinking about a year from now when she’s completed her degree. I initially and even somewhat now ( I wouldn’t likely be reading posts on this site if I was completely comfortable with this ) am questioning whether this is the right thing to proceed with but my heart tells me to carry on with a woman I love, respect and cherish with all my heart and soul. She has been in a relationship with a man almost my age several years ago and is helping me deal with the “looks” and comments we get when we go out and I find myself dealing with these situations pretty well now. My biggest concern right now is my parent’s reaction even though they haven’t met her. My mother has commented a couple of times over the last 3 or 4 months about knowing that I’m seeing a “girl” about my daughter’s age and has made the suggestion that “maybe we should just be friends” but I know it’s gone way too far for that. I was also told that she would not be welcome to join me and stay at my parents if I should bring her there in the future. This comment hit me very hard, especially since they haven’t even met her yet and are basing their opinions on “things” they’ve heard from other relatives that have met her and who appear to accept her and like her very much. She is a very well educated, dedicated, mature and loving woman who I thought I’d never be fortunate enough to meet at this stage in my life. I’m very troubled but not enough to leave the love of my life because some of my family is uncomfortable with the idea and is likely thinking about what other people will think. I do my best not to judge and am always very careful not to hurt other people but apparently that’s not the norm.
I’ll be checking in here from time to time and love hearing how others are dealing with their situations. thank you

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Comment on Are May December relationships really that different? by Kellie

Kellie — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:53:56 +0000

Hi all, I found this website about a week ago when I was looking for people to relate to. I’m in a May December relationship with a wonderful man that I’m absolutley in love with! I’m 21 and he is 54, making him 33 years older then me. Our age difference has never been a problem between the two of us, but it has been for our families. We met in July of 2008 and have been together for 2 years now. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get our families to not just see the age gap between us, but how happy we are, because for them it’s not even a consideration. They constantly bring up the age difference and how we don’t know what we’re doing & they really like to use the phrase, “you’re ruining your life”. Unfortunetly, I’ve thought about leaving him just to make peace with my family, but that would make me completely miserable! I just love how everyone on this website sees the age difference and life just like we do. And I don’t know how to make my family see it the same way. Besides our family, my man, Brad, and I have no other problems in our relationship at all. We make each other so happy, and he’s my best friend, my other half, and I want to be with him as long as life will allow and just be happy. Thanks to all of you!

Comment on Are May December relationships really that different? by Apel

Apel — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 20:59:38 +0000

Hi….Thanks for the post..it is defenitely encouraging to lots of us who has the similar situation.However, after reading all the post here, I am wonderfing is anyone has age gap relationship which comes to almost 40 years old? I am 33 now and I am in a relationship with someone 72 now. I met him 3 years ago and he was 69 then. He is healthy, loving and caring. I would say that he has all his good attributes which many men does n’t have.
We live on well together in the past 2 years and he is even willing to leave his dream land which he always plan to retire there and come all the way to my place and stay with me in Asia. I dont’ know that it love from men can be so genuine.I have never met a man in my life that he could be so wonderful.
Until now, I have not managed to speak to my parents about him…..I feel that I have no courage to do that. I am Chinese who live in the traditional culture enviroment.Sometimes, I really don’t know where our relationship can go.He has never force me or given me any pressure to make a decision to marry him though this is his ultimate goal.
I feel that on the other hand, we might have difficulties living outside the house or condo where we live in. I am active.I like to join lots of activity and go out.Most of the activity I join, he can’t really join with me though he is keen to because he has some minor injuries with his leg.When I go out, I won’t hold his hand or be close with him because I don’t like the way people look at us. HE doesn;t mine on all these things because he said that it is not important.Couple does not necessary do the same thing all the times but I wonder what can we do then? We can only stay together in the condo and be loving to each other or go out for a meal or so or maybe just travel a bit…but we can’t travel lots of time as I need to work and he doesn’t.Sometimes, I am a bit impatience with him because he can’t hear me well enough and I have to repeat to him many times that causes some arguments.
I really dont’ know do I really love him enough to be with him ? I geel guilty to him at times when he has to sacrify so much to come all the way from europe to be with me yet I feel that I can’t commit to him 100% and agree to marry him.
The main reason is I feel I can’t have a normal life with him all the times. I always do many things myself instead of with him. I go home to eat without him.I can’t blame him for this because I dont’ even dare to tell my parents about our relationship.
Not sure whether I should continue with him or ? I feel that something could be lacking which I don’t know what is that…and I try searching and searching yet not really coming with any answer. In short, maybe he did not give me the 100% confidence that I should be with him even though it could be another 10 years at least…..He gives me all the freedom I ever wanted but if we can’t go out together and enjoy together out of the house…it is like something is missing.
I do need some advise on this….if possible….whenther I am crazy to get into the relationship with someone who has almost 40years age gap from me.Thanks!