November 4th, 2010
Let’s just say it rhymes with sougar!
(Posted by Gayle)
I was reading a question on one of my favorite age gap relationship forums. I felt compelled to write the following post as a response to the question. If you read what I’ve written you’ll figure out what question to which I am responding. So hang in there it will all make sense, I just had to share it here!
I’d like to introduce you guys to my mom and my step-dad. Here is their picture. They had a 15 year age difference. The pic was taken in 1976. My father had died 5 years earlier leaving her a widow at the young age of 54. The age gap between my mom and dad was 8 DAYS. My mother died 5 years ago shortly before her 85th birthday and what would have been her 28th wedding anniversary with my step-father.
Now, 5 years later, my step-father enjoys dating a variety of women closer to his own age. We just celebrated his 76th birthday. I guess my mom was a cougar long before it was cool. Their 15 year age difference worked beautifully and was full and complete is EVERY way. The only problem they had is that sometimes HE had a hard time keeping up with her. I can hear her wonderful and much missed laugh as I type these words. She would have had a ball with the concept of being a “cougar.”.
I’m sorry I digressed, what was the question? Something about “what could he possibly see in a woman 18 years older who is his mother’s age”….
[...] While I was in high school, people often asked my mother if she ever planned to marry again. She always said “yes, the day Gayle leaves for college!” I never believed her, but my mom proved to be a woman of her word (almost.) She started dating during my senior year. She dated exactly 2 men and fell in love with one of them. I left for school the last week of August. I returned home on Labor Day weekend for her wedding to a man…. 15 years…her junior. [...]