An early Friendship House storefront entrance

As the old saying goes, “old enough!”

(Posted by Ron)

I recently wrote a post about how so many people are interested in the years between my age and Gayle’s.  Yesterday it occurred to me that there are significant differences between my age and the ages of my friends, and Gayle’s age and the ages of her friends, and our friends’ ages and mine and Gayle’s.  Confusing?  It’s really not.

Our best friend is about 25 years younger than I.  We recently cruised with new friends who are a bit younger than Gayle.  Over the years since we started doing our workshops we have made friends with people who are the same age as us, younger, older and age unknown.  We didn’t “card them”  before we became friends.  We didn’t make sure they were interested in the same things as us before deciding to like them.  I only remember wanting their friendship.

I have been asked so often if a couple with a significant age difference should take a chance on a committed relationship.  My answer is consistent.  Do you love each other?  If there were no age difference would you question the decision?  Would your answer be yes?  Those are the questions to ask, not whether your ages are a problem.

As you read this I want you to take a quick inventory of your friends.  Are they all close to the same age as you?  If so, maybe you should branch out some.  If not, did you question your age differences when you became friends?  Did you worry about not having the same interests?  Losing your older friend to death?  Other age related questions?  I doubt it.

My very good friends range in age from less than forty to ages similar to mine.  We have developed similar interests.  We are able to have meaningful  conversations.  We enjoy each other’s company.  Age is not an issue.

We’ve lost young friends and older friends.   Our lives would have been less full without their presence for as long as we got to enjoy them.  Friendships, like relationships and loves don’t depend upon age.  They, too, are based upon love and respect for one another.  Why let questions about age cause problems.  We are “old enough.”

Some secrets are meant to be shared and you don’t have to be in a May December relationship to benefit from ours!  Life is tricky, we need all the help we can get!

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