April 30th, 2009
OK, Now for the Big Defining Moment (Yes, the Marriage):
(Posted by Ron)
It was extremely important to me for Gayle to attend the seminar. I certainly didn’t help make that easier. Even though we had been warned against it, I reported to her each night about everything I was going through. As a result, she would have no part of it. I decided to back off. I did get to spend several fun hours as one of the volunteers that assisted in the programs over the next couple of months. I wanted more, though.
On November 22, 1986 Gayle and I were married. She was a little disturbed that I had invited all of the YOU folks to come to the wedding. Unfortunately (or fortunately) they were unable to attend because they were in a new workshop. Gayle told me later that if I had insisted that she attend the workshop she might not have married me. She didn’t want to be forced into anything. She does have a “small” stubborn streak, after all.
On New Year’s Eve of that year Gayle said “OK, I think I’m going to do it.” I thought she meant buy a computer, which was what we had been talking about that day. But no! She meant she was ready to attend the workshop. She had seen me retain the benefits I had gotten and wanted to see what was there for her. When she attended the first weekend it was still YOU Seminars. By the time she returned for the second session the ownership had changed and it was now Discover Seminars, although the Dallas staff remained the same. At the end of the workshop she was as convinced as I had been that her life had changed.
We began to volunteer to help in the administrative parts of the workshops. We attended the staff training that was required to allow us to actually work with the students under the supervision of the owner. Finally the time arrived when we were to assist inside for the first time. We had lots of assistance and supervision and had a wonderful experience. However the pinnacle of the experience was the work I did with one man in that training. He had been struggling with the process and I had been doing my best to help guide him to his own conclusions. I don’t remember what I said. I don’t remember what we were doing. What I remember was the look in his eyes when he discovered whatever it was that was blocking him in his life. That was one of the most wonderful feelings I have ever known. Something I had said or done had actually helped make someone’s life better. I had never had an experience like that before and didn’t want it to end.
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