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May-Decembers and Brotherly Love

Posted by Gayle

Well the trek to Ron’s homeland is winding down.  The grandkids have been hugged goodbye, tears have been wiped away, the 50th reunion is over, and I’m sitting on a plane headed back to Big-D.  Ron’s driving home and will reunite with me tomorrow. Perhaps the most memorable part of the trip was lunch today with Ron’s brother (Big Brother) and his wife.  Big Brother is 13 years older than Ron.  Big Brother’s marriage of a zillion year’s ended shortly after their 94 year old father died in 2001.  Big Brother remarried in 2002 to a woman 20 years his junior.

When I joined their family in 1986, I wasn’t exactly welcomed with open arms.  I hung in there and it didn’t take too long to find my own niche in their family.   As the years went by, they realized I was there to stay because of my love for Ron.  Perhaps I paved the way for Big Brother’s wife.  I think she made her transition into the family seamlessly.

Lunch with them today was a joy and it made me silently giggle.  Big Brother and his wife don’t use computers much.  They don’t know what a blog is and we’ve never really mentioned May-December Secrets to them.  One thing I find comforting about being around Big Brother is that a I catch a glimpse of Ron in 13 years.  It’s not a bad glimpse to catch especially when I am sitting across from Big Brother’s wife who is only a few years older than me.  We were laughing about the “stubborn” gene both of these men inherited.  We “May’ wives took a little credit for knocking some of the rough corners off the brothers.  More laughter and a few knowing looks crossed the table.

Big brother and I have another thing in common.  Neither of us had children of our own, but we both became proud grandparents.  Today we did some grandparental bragging, compared medication lists, and achey joints, but all in all we just marveled at how well everyone was doing.

Love is good for us – I’m sure of it.  Today I was a reminded that soul mates don’t count the years or the circumstances between them.  They just find a way to be together in whatever way and whenever they can.

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Are we May-Decemberers really a snowballing trend?  We’d love to find some real statistics.  If you happen to have any lying around, please send us a message.  Intelligent articles on this top keep popping up.  Enjoy….

Debunking the “Half-your-age-plus-seven” Rule of Thumb

If you’re one of those people who stares scornfully from your park bench at that 21-year-old girl walking romantically with the 55-year-old man in the park (or maybe it’s the 55-year-old woman walking hand-in-hand with the 21-year-old college-age guy)–it’s probably a good idea not to show too much open disgust. It’s likely other people around you will give you a look of disgust in return for thinking there’s something wrong with it–on par with those who still have outdated racial or other biased issues with people. Maybe it’s Hollywood setting trends once again (however arguable how influential they really are in today’s times)–but those people who sacrificed scorn with getting into a relationship with someone much younger or older than they are likely helped other people who’ve perhaps thought about it but avoided the situation for their own good.

Read the whole article:  May-December Relationships and Marriages: A Snowballing Trend in America – Associated Content.

I love this!  If you are an Alchemist fan, you will to.  If not, you might become one.  We “MayDecemberers” have a special understanding of following our heart’s desire.  This little book is a wonderful fable.  I highly recommend it.

Gayle

via YouTube – The Alchemist Alquimista – Paulo Coelho quotes..

A peek inside our fairy tale….

(Posted by Gayle)

I feel a few posts coming on about romance, fairy tales, and soul mates. Yesterday in a very short span of time Ron and I were given some very interesting feedback about our marriage from two completely unrelated sources.

One friend told us were an “inspiration” to her.  To see us still together and “in love” after all these years gave her hope.

A blog reader read one of our lighter posts and commented that he enjoyed seeing our humor – it seemed romantic to him.

When I shared the last comment with Ron…. he….well…L(ed)OL – laughed out loud! Read the rest of this entry »

For all of you women who are dating younger men, I think you’ll find this of interest.  You may not just be “cougars” anymore, perhaps you are bright, intelligent, vital women who marry the man you love regardless of what society might say!   And do we really have to call him a “toyboy” or “boy toy?”  Yikes!

Age gap – smage gap!  I mean…. I’m just saying….

Cheers,
Gayle

Nine years on and Barbara Windsor and her toyboy husband Scott are happier than ever | Mail Online.

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