February 1st, 2009
ACCEPTANCE
“If only you would change…!” Those are the words couples’ counseling is made of. You tell me your partner’s behavior is causing your problems. Your relationship would be better if only he or she changed. Was he or she like this when you met? Did you think what they were doing was “cute” or that they would change with time and your love? Were you the one who said “age doesn’t matter?”
Either way, you (oh yes we did just go there) are as guilty as your partner. Why? If you didn’t deal with the issues up front, you basically entered into a contract without agreeing to all the clauses. You seemed accepting or understanding – but now you’ve changed the game.
If you really want a change in your relationship, look inside. Is there a way you can be more accepting or less critical? If your partner’s behavior could be a relationship killer, then maybe you need to sit down and share from your heart in a loving way. Seek to understand before being understood. Work together to create change rather than as opposing forces of nature.
Before you try to change others, remember how hard it is to change yourself.
- Bill Bluestein
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