February 15th, 2009
CHANGING
How often do you hear well meaning friends (busybodies) giving you advice about your relationship? People love to tell you that people don’t change. Even we have told you it is good to practice acceptance with people you love.
But today we are crying foul – PEOPLE DO CHANGE! Factually speaking, we change more often that we don’t. Think about it. Are you still doing the same things you did 10 or 20 years ago? Do you have only the same friends? Are you wearing the same size clothes? Are you working at the same job or living in the same place? Have you mellowed in some ways? What lessons have you learned? Of course some of patterns repeat and we all have devilish personality traits that keep popping up.
Ultimately, the only thing that stays the same is change.
The prudent advise here is to quit waiting for others to change before you do. Be a leader. Take the plunge. Dive right in and go first. Quit worrying so much about whether or not he or she will change. Even if he or she is older than you, you can blaze change’s trail. If you happen to be the older one in the relationship, you are not going to get so old that change is impossible. The question is – will you make it probable. If you are breathing, change is guaranteed.
Ideally, in a relationship, both partners will be committed to making the changes necessary to put the relationship first. And maybe the first change you’ll make is to decide to be happy rather than right.
It is not the strongest of the species that survives,
nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
- Charles Darwin
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